I’ve written before about what Pinterest has done for (or is it to?) brides, and I am still in awe of how much this one social network has probably changed an entire industry. I can certainly tell you that I did not have a list of “must have shots” for my photographer at my first wedding, and I didn’t give much thought to the gifts for the bridal party (did I even give gifts? I’m sure I did, but I don’t remember…). And while it can be fun looking there for inspiration and ideas for my own second-time shindig, it’s a bit like watching one of the Housewives series… I gawk because I can’t wrap my brain around the fact that people actually live that way, and care so much about what other people think.
Of course I want my loved ones and friends to enjoy themselves, but this is a (ten minute) ceremony to mark our commitment to each other and to celebrate this hopeful new beginning that is The Man and me. If the people I invite to share the day with us love us, they will enjoy it just for that simple fact.
I must say, the second time around is very liberating. There’s so much you just don’t have to worry about (and so many more options!!). And maybe it’s not so much the fact that it’s a second wedding, but that it’s a really small, casual affair. Public Park, Friday afternoon, about ten people, including us, The Boy, and the officiant! When it’s so small, you don’t need 90% of the stuff you have to worry about for a big wedding, and it’s SO cool.
So, yes, I still get lost on Pinterest for a time, but more often than not, I’m giggling at the posts about how to spend “only” $5K on your wedding, 15 “mandatory” wedding photos, and the 6 “rules” a man must follow to ask a girl to marry him… Oh brother.
That “rules” post drives me nuts! I would hope any guy that is considering proposing to a girl that has a “must-have-list” of how he should do it would go running!
I feel the exact same way!! They are just setting themselves up for disappointment!