Hi, I’m Annie and I’m “Mom” to a boy with autism. I’m also a daughter, friend, former teacher, and a whole bunch of other roles that make life a little more complicated, but enjoyable.
I’m back to being a single mom, After divorce number two. To be honest, it’s easier this way.
I can’t count the number of times people have asked the question that makes us single moms, or moms of kids with special needs shake our heads… “How do you do it?” My response? I just do. There’s no alternative. Just like everyone else on the planet, we don’t get to see our “alternate life”: the coulda, woulda, shoulda’s. This is it. This is our only chance, and so we do our damndest to do it right the first time, because fixing mistakes takes a lot of time, and often sparks meltdowns — not the kids’, OURS.
I’m nowhere near an expert on parenting solo or parenting kids with special needs, or any of the other things I do to keep myself sane (cooking, baking, writing books, napping). But I can remember 2 times in my life being scared out of my wits and not knowing where to turn: 1) hearing my son’s diagnosis, and 2) deciding to file for divorce. Going through both of those things (and countless others) was made a hell of a lot easier by being able to listen to, talk to, and commiserate with others, sometimes anonymously.
PS My blavatar is “Lake Van in Turkey” by Ingeborg Bernhard, 1977
PPS I refer to my son on this blog as “The Boy” not because I am cold, or mean, or unfeeling, and not to “distance” myself from him. I call him “The Boy” because he is my only boy – My One and Only! There are no other boys next to him. He is the only boy a mom could ever want.
Ugh- the ol’ “How do you do it?” Also, “you must be so strong. I don’t think I could do it.” And of course, “you must have been chosen for this.”
Nice to meet you 🙂
You too 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!
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Hi! I’ve nominated your amazing blog for the Liebster Award (a great way for bloggers to help promote each others’ blogs)! I did this because of your work in helping increase Autism Awareness.
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Thank you so much for the Liebster Award! I appreciate you thinking of me. It takes me some time to get myself in gear, but I really appreciate the thought!
It’s much deserved! 🙂
I have nominated you for the Liebster Award! I love your blog!
Hi, Annie! I nominated you for a Liebster Award: http://dexterlanges.wordpress.com/2013/05/19/liebster-nominees-surprise-im-not-dead/
Hi! I enjoyed reading your posts. I have autistic sister and you motivated me in some sense. Thank you! 🙂 I wish you the best!!
Thank you! Good luck to you as well! 🙂
I am a single mom blogger and I just started a new series on my blog called Single Moms Find Love. Would you be interested in writing a guest post? http://myadventures-in-mommyland.blogspot.com/2013/11/single-moms-find-love.html