Sometimes people will ask about The Boy’s future. Will he go to college? Will he live on his own? What will he do when he’s an adult?
The crazy thing about autism, is that it is unpredictable. I have no clue what the future will look like. Most parents of NT kids can reasonably assume that their child will go to college or trade school, or get work experience once out of high school, and will be able to make a living and live on their own, find a life partner, and maybe give them grandchildren. We special needs parents either don’t know if any of that will happen, or we know for certain that it won’t.
As The Boy gets older, I get a better idea, but I can’t say for certain, and I definitely don’t want to judge his capability too early, thereby predetermining the outcome – does that make sense? I want to be as open as I can to all possibilities so that none seems out of reach for The Boy.
One of the ideas that has been percolating ever since we made this major life decision to move to be closer to The Man and my parents has been to start up our own business or nonprofit, which could be a built-in job for The Boy in the future. We have lots of ideas, but one that started as a joke, and is still a joke (mostly, maybe, hmmm…) has been that The Man and The Boy will operate a hot dog stand at the beach during the summer. The Man actually has a friend who did it for awhile and made money doing it, too!
So this is The Boy’s Christmas gift to The Man this year:
Pretty fitting, don’t you think?