I’ve written recently about how many changes The Boy is handling at school (and at home) and how well he is doing with all of it. His school schedule has been sorted, relatively, and his TA is growing into her role as the point of contact at the school.
I, too, have been handling some big change. I left my job and got a new one, and even though it presents new challenges due to being a little less than full time, I think it quite possibly saved my sanity. I look forward to going to work again, and learning new tasks with a new crew of people who are not constantly gossiping, backstabbing, and sabotaging. Even though I work with people much younger than me now, the maturity level is infinitely higher than the workplace I left.
We also closed on the sale of our house and moved into our temporary home while we build on our lot. The house was left fairly dirty, and the walls were a goldenrod color (seriously??), so we had to clean and paint before unpacking completely, and I was about ready to tear my hair out, but it’s been about a week, and we are finally settling in. I love being on this side of town, and we are so close to The Boy’s school, that The Man is now taking him in the morning, alleviating some of our morning anxieties. The Boy loves it because he gets to sleep in later (ha!).
And everything kind of happened at once. Autism families recognize this as having great potential for disaster, but (knock on wood) we are all adjusting quite well, and much that is positive has come from this round of changes. I guess change is inevitable, but sometimes we get scared. Life is too short to be miserable and afraid, though, and taking risks can result in positive things. It’s good to be reminded of that.
I like to think that there’s a reason for the important stuff that happens. Not the “God doesn’t give you what you can’t handle” garbage, because there are lots of people who can’t handle what they’re given. But I like to think that when you are open to opportunity, there’s a hell of a lot of coincidence out there to take advantage of.
My background as a teacher has always helped me be a better parent to The Boy. My background as a band director is helping me fight for my son’s rights as I write this. Even my first crappy marriage has made me a better wife the second time around.
Tonight, I became the lynch pin, the go-between for my autism society friends and my boss’s wife who owns a local restaurant and offered for them to have fundraisers at her place. And it was so coincidental, and so much good came of this chance meeting of people who happened to know me… There are times when nothing seems random, yet we seem so incredibly lucky.
It’s times like these when I feel like I am contributing something good and important to the world, even though I am not as nobly employed as I used to be. I’m building a network of good people who can help each other out, and have a direct positive impact on everyone in our community. It’s a rare thing, but it’s starting to happen… I love opportunity!
The Boy and I went to our chapter of the ARC’s bowling party today, and we had an absolute blast! We had 17 bowlers and plenty of parents and caregivers in the cheering section. And it was really hard not … Continue reading →
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