You are at some school or other kid-related function, and a parent begins talking to you as if they know you. She or he prattles on about their child by first name, and your child by first name. But you’ve never met them before in your life.
I suspect this is common for those of us with kiddos on the spectrum, at least those of us whose kiddos are not-exactly-verbal. In my experience, The Boy becomes a kid at school that everyone knows, or at least knows of, but because we have limited social interaction with the same students outside of school, I know none of these kids. It is also due to the fact that The Boy is fairly nonverbal about anything that happens at school. This is why I try to go on at least one field trip per year, so I can put names with faces.
The latest occurrence happened at an Autism Society Friend and Fun event, and I met a mom and her daughter, a girl who is a year behind The Boy in school. He’s gone to school with her for two years, so her mom assumed I knew her daughter, or at least knew her, but I had never heard her name mentioned before, and had never seen her before.
I’m clearly at a disadvantage when this happens, and never quite sure how to respond without seeming rude, and I really should come up with something to say. I would love to know more of these kids and their parents. It would be great for both of us to make more connections, but it’s almost as if he is a celebrity and lives a double life.
Apparently, what happens at school stays at school, and the first rule of school? Never talk about school. 😉
When I read my son’s communication book from school, I want to know more than the circled pictograms can tell me. When he has had a good day, they talk about the tasks he completed. If it was a bad day, there is often detail about the behaviour. School is a mysterious place.
It is, isn’t it? You’re lucky to get a communication log!
Lucky is never the word I use, but I know that so few parents get one regularly from other schools. I wonder if someone has an app out there that teachers can use that syncs with visual schedulers. The teachers could record a little blurb about the day. I must be dreaming.
An app would be a great idea! Unfortunately, even with the new texting programs teachers are using, I still miss important info.