After the divorce, The Boy talked to his dad about once a week on the phone. At least, his dad did most of the talking, unsure of how to get him to respond, and frequently pissed off because The Boy didn’t speak much at all. Over the years, his contact with The Boy has decreased dramatically, as I somehow knew it would, sooner or later.
The ex hasn’t seen his son in almost a year. He hasn’t spoken to him since January 23.
People rarely change, unless they invite it, seek it, and educate themselves to effect it. None of these, unfortunately, apply to the ex. Unfortunately for The Boy, who will probably always have a strained relationship with his dad, if he has one at all. And unfortunately for the ex, who obviously hasn’t a clue what he is missing, and won’t be able to get this missed time with his son back.
Luckily for The Boy, I think he notices it less now that he has a step-dad around, full-time. One who takes him for rides in the truck, wrestles with him, jokes with him, and obviously cares about him. The Man will never replace his dad, but he sure makes up for what his dad lacks in his life. And that’s a good thing. Couldn’t get much better, in fact.
He’s lucky to have a great step dad who can be there for him. It’s unfortunate that his real father cannot be there and honestly has no clue what he’s missing. It breaks my heart sometimes because my daughters dad comes and goes as he pleases and lacks responsibility
I just can’t identify with parents who can’t live up to the title. Being a mom is challenging, but I can’t imagine my life without my son and wouldn’t want to. You are right – they have no clue what they are missing!
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