Will he never grow up? Will he never learn to manage his anger? Will he ever learn that I just don’t play that way?
Ah, yes. The Angry Ex has returned, texting me today, all nicey-nice about a couple of favors he needs from me. The check is in the mail, but will I send a short paragraph to his potential mortgage lender about how he pays child support regularly? And can I send him a copy of our divorce papers?
Number 1: He doesn’t pay child support regularly, so he is asking me to lie in exchange for money that he already owes his own son. Number 2: We are divorced, and keeping track of his paperwork is no longer my responsibility (like it ever was?).
When I first spoke to an attorney about the possibility of divorce, the attorney told me that so many of his cases were against “Peter Pan” – guys who just never grew up. The ex in my case seems to be Peter Pan’s darker twin brother, because when I won’t play along and do what he expects me to do, he gets angry, verbally abusive, and retaliates by not speaking and/or seeing his son.
At first he was fine with me not making copies of the divorce papers.
And then he called. As soon as I heard my phone (I have a special ringtone, just for him), I knew that I would be asked for another “favor”, and not that he was actually calling to talk to his son, with whom he hasn’t spoken in two weeks, and then only because The Boy called him. He explained that he was in a “time crunch” and asked if I would scan in the divorce papers and email them to him. I told him I really didn’t have the time, and he hung up on me.
As if that hurts me in some way.
Nope, he’ll never grow up.
“We won’t grow up!
We will never grow a day
And if someone tries to make us
We will simply run away” ~ Peter Pan