There seems to have been a recurring theme all summer, and it has now bled into the fall with the latest story of a couple of ladies who took it upon themselves to write a passive aggressive note to a parent at a restaurant. In previous cases, a restaurant owner balled out a toddler, and a woman had her check paid by a stranger.
It seems a pretty divisive conversation. People do not hesitate to comment, and comment strongly, about WHAT THEY THINK.
I get both sides of the issue. I really do. And I was not there in any of these cases, so I personally do not know the extent of the “screaming”. There are times that The Man and I have been out to dinner, and been severely annoyed by a toddler allowed to run around the wooden booth behind us, and there are other times when a particularly enthusiastic child doesn’t bother me. A lot depends on the situation, the age of the child, and the parents’ attempt or lack thereof to control the behavior.
But here’s the thing. Public spaces are public. Kids are kids. Restaurants are open to all kinds of people. You cannot control your environment unless you are at home, and as soon as you try to, you infringe on someone else’s rights. Parents with rambunctious children have a right to go out to eat once in awhile. And you may have to suffer through an annoying experience once in awhile. That’s just life. Unless you want to go off-grid and live like a hermit, you will have to deal with other people who are not under your control.
Also, how do you expect children to learn how to behave in restaurants if they never get the chance to go to one? What are we teaching children if we whisk them out of every public place as soon as they make a peep? The Boy is not whisked out of his classroom every time he needs to pace or starts to get upset, nor should he be. He needs to learn how to manage his emotions and still participate in class, much like a small child should learn this as well. They can only do that in situ.
This does all depend on the parent making the moment teachable, and monitoring when the behavior gets to be too much for the surroundings.
Judgy and opiniony. It’s getting a little thick out there again. Be nice, don’t judge, offer to help, and get over it.