The Boy is back and seemingly had a good time. And I am glad. I’m glad there were no emergency phone calls asking me what to do because he is having a meltdown. I’m glad it sounds like they actually spent time together, which hasn’t been the case in the past. And it’s early days yet, but I’m glad that The Boy seems to be happy to be home, with no lingering ill-effects like cat scratches covering his hands, or a fear of the bathtub.
I am happy to have him back, and I am happy he had a good time.
That does not mean that I trust things with his dad have changed. While setting up this trip, his dad talked about taking him to Disney in May, because he knows someone who works at Discovery Cove and could get “us” into all the parks for free – you see, he wanted The Man and I to share in this adventure, most likely because he wanted us to drive The Boy down to Orlando to meet him. I asked him not to mention this idea to The Boy, and told him May wouldn’t work, as The Boy is still in school at that time. When we met for drop-off, the ex explained that it would have to be postponed, and that the cost of Discovery Cove would be $150 each for he and The Boy, and if The Man and I wanted to go it would cost us $400 a piece, so maybe we wouldn’t want to do that.
So says the ex, who is almost $800 behind in child support.
So you see, I am happy this trip was able to happen. I am happy The Boy seemed to have a good time. But not for one second do I think things have really changed. Not for one second do I believe the ex is done hurting The Boy, albeit unintentionally. Plans will continue to be cancelled, phone calls left unmade, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera… Maybe it’s pessimistic, and distrustful, but it’s also evidence-based, and I am too protective a mom to think otherwise.