The Boy and I went over for a “playdate” of sorts with some new friends from our local chapter of the Autism Society. The Boy had gone to summer camp with this boy, and I’ve leaned on his mom quite a bit through our schooling struggles. The boys had a blast – it was very neat to see The Boy getting along so well with kids his own age (or thereabouts), and I was grateful just to have the chance to do it, and the chance for him to make some real friends, something he hasn’t yet done at school.
And I can’t overlook the chance for me to make friends. It can be a bit lonely moving away from almost everyone you know. I still love my friends from up north, but I can’t hang out with them by any means, and so I spend a lot of time by myself, especially being underemployed. It doesn’t lend itself to maintaining your sanity, let’s just say, so it was nice to get out and just hang out with someone, especially someone who really gets what I’m going through right now.
One of the things we have been talking about has been a possible switch in schools for The Boy. We’re hoping to get him into a pilot program at a middle school across the county which is aimed at high functioning kids on the spectrum. It happens to be housed where our new friends go to school (across the county, requiring busing), and New Friend’s Mom can’t say enough good things about the special ed staff, who really seem to know autism, front and back. So, we are pursuing it, because his current school is still not following his IEP, and seem to be taking their sweet time even implementing any of the county specialists recommendations.
It would be a tremendous transition, again, and we have weighed that into the decision, but at this point, I strongly feel he is not in the correct placement, and I’m ready to fight to get him into this program (even though I don’t think I will really need to).
So keep your fingers crossed for The Boy. New opportunities may be on the horizon that would be much better in the long run, but may be a little painful at first. Just another day on the spectrum.
Sounds like the school is not meeting FAPE (free and public education) protocol. The district fears this. Make sure you are up to speed.
Districts will not volunteer availability of some services. An advocate is huge because you don’t know what you don’t know. Ours cost 750 bucks and worth every penny.
They aren’t and I know it, and they know I know it! They are pleading for time, but I’m no longer waiting. I have consulted an advocate, and luckily the county ASD specialist is on my side.
Good for you. Go get em.