Recently, I have written a few posts venting about my job. I decided to take that risk because I felt it was important to write about what happens when a person like me who cares for a person like The Boy has a work-life balance that is out of wack. It is extremely overwhelming, and when work intrudes on home life, it can be incredibly defeating. You need the job to care for your loved ones, but the job is actually preventing you from giving your best to your loved ones.
Today, my boss revealed to me that someone in our office made him aware of this little blog, and he has read some of it.
Luckily for me, I think it gave him some perspective he didn’t have before in regards to my need for more balance, and it was the jumping off point for a refreshing conversation between the two of us.
But now I’m left to wonder… Who wanted to get at me so bad that they would report what I say here to my employer?
This happened to a close friend of mine who had a crazy person create a big crapstorm about her handling of the finances of a nonprofit, contacting the state level people of the nonprofit (who assured her that the finances were just fine), and then even going so far as to contact my friend’s employer, anonymously of course, to insinuate that they had better check out my friend because she was mishandling money.
When you start messing with people’s livelihoods, you have a problem.
And so now, I am wondering about this little blog of mine. I’m wondering if I still even feel comfortable enough to write here. I’m not going to get stuck in the cycle of asking myself whether I should have or shouldn’t have posted. This blog has never been just for you, or just for me. It has been for all of us. But now that I know someone is reading who felt like it was necessary to take that step, use what’s written here for their own personal gain (whatever that was), and quite possibly in the end, could have hurt me and my family…
I don’t feel “safe” here right now. And I have to think about that.
Let me know what you think.
If it did not harm the relationship with your employer, there would be no reason to stop posting. I don’t remember your posts ever being negative in nature toward your employer. Do you know who reported the blog to your boss? Were they trying to help you somehow? Just trying to look at it from a different angle.
It’s not that I am afraid of any future repercussions, just the ick factor. I write about my son and my family, and this person (who clearly would have come to me first if they were trying to help) is presumably still reading. If they had no qualms about how their actions may affect my livelihood, then maybe they have no qualms about hurting us in some other way. Hard to explain.
Yeah, I can see your feeling on that. Do you know who it is?
I have a good idea. Not much I can do about it, though, besides watch my back.
I’m sorry. What an icky feeling. 😦
Whew. I HATE reading that this happened. Well, except that maybe the discussion with the boss ended up going well. Maybe The Wolf actually did you a favor. I do not imagine that was what The Wolf was thinking. Any colleague who had only good intentions would most likely have had a discussion with you about it first. I say this person is definitely a Wolf. But HA HA WOLF!! No harm done in the end. You can keep hiding behind your sheep clothing. On to more important matters…
I believe your blog is 99% of the time stories which are in no way going to hurt/expose you in a negative way. I think blogging can have so many positives: sharing stories that others need to hear – those who have no idea of a certain situation and can learn something to expand their minds, those who live similar stories and love hearing that others are going through similar, sometimes challenging times – plus it can be so therapeutic for the blogger to get out these thoughts on the screen! I vote keep going!! Just maybe try to keep the 1% of your stories which could have a negative outcome where Wolves are involved out of the public. Keep blogging!
Yes, I knowingly “went there” when I posted about work, and shouldn’t have. It’s always a judgment call, and unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on how you look at it), this wasn’t something I was looking for. After considering, I’m going to continue, but I’m sad that I feel restricted. It’s not something who really loves to write will ever feel comfortable about.
And it’s sad that you still have to work with this person. How uncomfortable, and personally it would make me angry to have to
be around someone like that. So sorry hun!
I just nominated you for the sunshine blogger award! Congratulations!