Yet another friend of mine told me recently that she and her husband were separating. And they have a son on the spectrum. I don’t think it had a lot to do with their decision, but it may have been an elephant in the room because her husband is probably also on the spectrum but was never diagnosed. They just told the kids this past weekend, and they are all still reeling.
And my best friend at work called a lawyer today to make an appointment to get the ball rolling on her divorce.
People in my circle are hurting, and I empathize. They are in places I was in, what seems like a long time ago. Ages ago. Lifetimes ago.
Luckily I know what not to say. I know what they do not want to hear. And I hope they see me at the other end and take heart that the pain they are going through does not have to last forever. They are both strong ladies, but even the strong have weak moments, and this is one of the hardest struggles they will ever live through.
My heart aches for them, but I also admire them for their strength to face what they are in for. And I stand ready to catch them when they need to lean on someone.