The Boy and I have been here for almost two years – I can’t believe it. It seems like only yesterday we were packing up the rental truck, and tossing the huge TV to the curb in preparation for our big move. And I’ve been at my job almost a year and half, too. That I can believe, but that’s a post for another day…
I’m still adjusting. And the biggest adjustment in all of our life changes has been time. I have a constant feeling like I do not have enough time to get anything done that I need or want to get done. Something is always slipping through the cracks. It is true that I simply work longer hours. But this is misleading. Of course my school day was shorter than my current work day, but I was often in after school meetings, doing concerts, grading homework, and doing other school-related things well into the evening. I don’t often have evening obligations now. So while I technically work longer hours, I don’t think this is a big part of the issue.
Another part of it is having a husband to spend time with. Before we moved down, I spent time with The Boy, but I had alone time, too. I don’t get as much of that now, and nor would I want to be alone that much now that I am married. I enjoy spending time with my hubby! That does mean less time for solitary activities, though. And if I have a choice to spend time with The Man or do things like the laundry, The Man wins every time – that’s a no-brainer. But when it comes to reading or writing… well, it gets a little tougher.
I think the final piece of the puzzle is drive time. It takes forever to drive five miles, and most destinations are a half hour away. I leave work at 5, and pick up The Boy at Grammy’s, but we are often not home before 6. Most of that is wait time for The Boy who needs multiple timers to get him to leave, but it is also drivers who like to go 10-20 miles under the speed limit, and a default speed limit of 35 on two lane roads. The grocery store takes 20-30 minutes to get to on a Monday evening… and so on. Up north, when I picked The Boy up at 5, we could often get to the grocery store, do all of our shopping and still be home before 6. It’s a big change.
During the summer I go to work earlier, and therefore leave earlier, so I think it’s a little easier to budget my time during the day. It is our busiest, most stressful season at work, but I also get a little down time to myself before the evening begins. Everything is a balancing act, and although slight changes may make things easier, time will always be a struggle. At least spring is here, which means more sunshine and warm weather – they make everything a little easier. :)